Posts Tagged ‘Tales From the Darkside’
A writing teacher of mine once told me, “If you don’t know how to say what you need to, just start writing until it makes sense”. So I’m writing.
For a little over a year, The Egg has been dormant. At least the blog portion of it. I feel like I owe an explanation, but wasn’t quite sure how to write one without overthinking how I would be coming across.
You see, when our IVF became successful, I thought I’d be able to take the banner of infertility and move into another realm of activism. I’d be able to take what I knew firsthand about dealing with infertility and somewhat overcoming it, and I’d be able to help even MORE people. But I wasn’t prepared for the immense anxiety and depression that would overtake me in those few months and the full year after. I was already keeping a low profile, because I wasn’t sure what to share, because I didn’t want to hurt anyone who was still in the fight. But beyond that, I was then fighting with intrusive sad thoughts during pregnancy, which made me feel extremely guilty. Finally, he was here, and my anxiety about everything in the world, grew to a point where I just lost myself.
Ten years into our marriage, and seven years to the date of this blog’s creation, my husband and I finally welcomed our son, Judah into the world. He is an amazing gift that encourages me to continue telling people not to give up on their family building dreams. I never shy away from telling people how much work, effort, and medicine it took to bring him into our lives. I am not ashamed of our infertility, and I want to encourage and support as many people as I can so that they too can have this amazing feeling.
I am grateful for him. I’m grateful for what our infertility journey has instilled in me that informs my parenting style. I think there are a LOT of amazing gems I received during our lengthy wait that we use DAILY as parents.
I’m constantly saying quiet prayers of gratitude. That he was given to us. That he’s healthy. That we made it a year with him and he hasn’t fired us. LOL
But for the past eighteen months, I’ve also battled an intense and paralyzing bout of depression and anxiety. A sickness that has caused me to drastically withdraw from the life I had before. Triggers have developed from everything from television and social media, to even quick trips to the store. There have been days where I’ve sat in my car, too afraid to get out and go in to work. Other days, I have had to literally talk myself through the most mundane social interactions like saying hello, responding to an email, or deciding what to eat for dinner.
I’ve felt like a prisoner in my own mind. Unable to find a safe space to talk because I felt I had no right to. Because I wanted to be a mom so badly, that how DARE I talk about how difficult a time I was having, when so many others are still just trying to GET HERE. That perhaps I should just accept what comes in the aftermath.
So the blog sat still.
Because I couldn’t figure out how to say, “YES, this is wonderful. YES, we’ve finally had this wonderful gift. But, I’m scared, and sad, and petrified most of the time.”
Every enjoyable moment felt like it warranted payment of some kind. And I felt an immense and insufferable guilt. So I began to limit my interactions and compartmentalize my life. A complete pull-back from social media outside of documenting the baby’s life on his own private Instagram. Work became clinical. Where I once LOVED starting my day, and sharing exciting things with my patrons, I became too afraid of being in a public space with so many strangers all day. I began to gauge my social outings by whether or not I felt the conversations would stay light and airy or if the location was close and small, because I didn’t want to risk getting somewhere and landing in a situation that would send me into an emotional spiral when I left.
The shame of feeling so fragmented made me feel unworthy or incapable of working for the infertility community, for my sorority, or even my job. And I was too anxious to make regular updates or contributions anyway. I was not myself. But I continued to smile in photos, and respond brightly to personal messages. I may have taken a few days longer than usual, but I would push myself to respond to emails. I’d attend events and try to make sure that no one could see the panic behind my eyes, or hear me take the deep breaths I needed to get through the time. And I told myself that this was just how it was going to be.
At the very worst of my days, around January, I made it into an appointment with a therapist I’d never met before, and in two seconds of being in her space, I was a puddle of tears and told her that I felt like a basket-case. I couldn’t complete a thought. I couldn’t focus at work. I’d been driving since I was 14, and I was afraid to drive. And I felt on top of everything else that I HAD to do this RIGHT, because I fought so hard for it. I felt that I’d pushed God’s hand in trying so very hard for motherhood, and that this was my penance. At any moment, it would all be snatched away, and I’d never recover.
And I couldn’t figure out how to talk about that. So I’ve been listening to podcasts, and researching, and reading what I can. And the conclusion that I’ve come to, is that I HAVE to talk about this. ESPECIALLY here, on The Egg, because I don’t want anyone else to feel like I did/do. That because you fought to get to parenthood, you somehow lose the right to admit what you’re going through.
Babies don’t cure infertility. And infertility is wracked with anxieties and fears that grow and expand, sometimes even into parenthood. And while I knew that was possible, I had no idea how intense that growth would be. So the purpose of my post today is really to say, I apologize for being quiet. I’m still here. I’m still thinking of you, and praying for your success! I want you to win! I want you to have the family you envision, or the peace of mind to cope with the future you hadn’t.
A long overdue update on our gift.
I’m so happy to be here.
I’m going to start by saying that, even though the next thing I say will undoubtedly make someone believe that I’m contradicting it.
And that is, that for the past 24 weeks, I’ve had multiple battles of emotion where I found myself thinking:
“I’m supposed to be happier than this. Aren’t I?”
I know that it sounds like the most ungrateful and irresponsible thing I could possibly say, when finally reaching the position that I’ve been trying to reach for so many years. And I really struggled with writing it down at all, but I felt that it was important to stop hiding behind the pressure of being pregnant after infertility and be honest.
For the past few months, I have fought extremely hard with anxiety and fear. Pregnancy already comes with its own hormonal and emotional changes. I’ve read a lot of articles and we’ve all seen the commercials and movie scenes that show pregnant women crying over commercials and even happy songs. I was okay with that, and somewhat expected it, because I know it comes with the territory. Being pregnant after infertility, however, I believe comes with an added level of stress and trauma that weighs heavily on the heart and affects not only how I view myself as a pregnant woman, but how I feel about everything. These weren’t just pregnancy hormones, this was finding myself so scared and anxious all the time, that it started to feel paralyzing.
For the beginning of this new journey, I was in survival mode. Every day was another day of questions and worry, brought on because through all the years that I’ve been in the world of infertility, I’ve seen the elated highs of announcements, and also the devastating news when something has gone wrong.
I found myself wanting to be excited, but internally, painfully sad. Because I wanted this so very badly, and felt like “I’m no better than any of the amazing people who’ve gotten to this point and then had to say goodbye to their little one far too soon”, what makes me different? Feeling as though I didn’t deserve to be on the other side, I’d be praying for the best, while always emotionally preparing myself for the worst.
Before appointments, I would talk myself through what to do if there was no heartbeat this week. I’d plan out what to say to my office, or how I’ll tell the select few who already knew. I wanted to prepare myself to be strong, at what would be the most devastating moment of my life.
And I was doing so, because in a way, I’d lived through it before.
When we were planning to adopt, I’d never felt so close to being a parent. There was an actual, human baby that was being given to us. Even then, we were careful to only tell a select few, just as we have now. We were cautiously optimistic. To get all the way to the hospital, and to holding her, and to hearing this birth mother say out of her own mouth, “Oh, she’ll be just fine with you all”, I made the mistake of letting my guard down. Of getting excited. Of getting attached.
So when two days later it was all snatched away, I believe a part of me just wilted. Such an abrupt ending to such a slow and steady hope. I couldn’t go to work, and I couldn’t leave my room. I couldn’t be the same ignorant person I’d been before having it happen, and I couldn’t figure out who the informed person was going ot be on the other side of it.
And I NEVER want to be there again. Because I almost didn’t come out.
So while I knew full well the risks involved in IVF, and although I decided to do it anyway, I’ve been cautious and tentative every step of the way. My own doctor said I had a pleasant smile, but that it was clear that underneath it she could tell I was petrified and sad.
At times where I should have been bouncing off the walls with excitement and joy, I’d look at the ultrasound monitor and usually say out loud, “Thank God, there’s something still there!” And the nurses and the doctors always look at me like, “Of course, silly!” And then I just start the countdown to the next appointment, when I’ll probably be just as terrified.
My patient and caring husband has been dragged along in my issues as I kept us from announcing until a whopping 20 weeks, though I’d designed an announcement somewhere around week 8. I just couldn’t get the thought out of my head that if we were to once again get people’s hopes up, including our own, and then have to turn around and let everyone down again, I didn’t think I could handle it.
While listening to a podcast that I love, “The Friend Zone” I heard this statement:”Most of us are spending so much time fearing the loss of something, that we can’t even enjoy it.”
“Most of us are spending so much time fearing the loss of something, that we can’t even enjoy it.”
WOW. What a word. That’s exactly it.
I have felt extremely isolated in my anxiety out of guilt and shame. Guilt for feeling as though I should NEVER find myself anything but elated when so many of my friends are still fighting to get to this side. Ashamed that I was “allowing” the anxiety and worry to rob me of the experience I’d waited for, or that my emotional state would be harmful to this little life, which then made me feel even worse. Also, I worried that to tell these feelings would be offensive or hurtful to those who have followed me, or prayed for us, or who are at times seemingly more happy for us than I’ve been able to be for myself.
But, being in my head all of the time is the true culprit here. I can’t just put my head down and barrel through this like I once believed. I have to speak, because that’s my therapy. I decided to share these feelings because I’ve prided this blog, and really all of BBE on being honest. On saying those things that others may be thinking but may not feel they have the right or even the platform to say. This is no different.
Pregnancy depression and anxiety is a REAL thing. It actually affects about 6% of all pregnant women and is sometimes more common in women who have experienced infertility. After the emotional highs and lows of infertility, we’re so used to safeguarding ourselves from the worst, that we can sometimes have a hard time adjusting. Feelings of isolation and not fitting into the “naturally” pregnant world, or belonging in our infertility circles anymore can become overwhelming.
If you’re like me, and fighting off sadness, I want you to know you’re not alone. Your feelings are valid, no matter how off-putting they may be. They don’t take away from how amazing of a parent you’re going to be, or how wonderful of a parent you already are. Wherever you are on this journey, I’m rooting for you, and I’m praying for all of us!
I am so very grateful to God that I’m here now. That I’ve seen the heartbeat and heard it with my own ears. That something we’ve waited for so long, is finally within our own reach, just a few months away! Sometimes I’m so excited I could literally run down the street like a crazy person, because June can’t get here fast enough.
The feelings I’ve talked about here today, don’t take away from that. They don’t make me second guess my choice to take the crazy IVF ride, or to even be a parent at all. They remind me that I’m human, and that this whole thing is so much bigger than babies. That our emotional and psychological well-being is intimately tied to our ability to grow our families in the way that we choose.
And here’s a small treat, and the Christmas Gift my husband and I bought for ourselves the day after Christmas. We went to a commercial ultrasound facility for a gender check, AND they added the heartbeat to a stuffed animal for us. THANK YOU for sticking with us.
And as always, you can always talk to ME.
On Tuesday, October 13, 2015 at 8am, I drove to our fertility center for our first beta test. Maybe my nerves compounded it, but this day seemed to be out to get me.
First, I got LOST.
Look, we’ve been going to our center since JULY, and yet, yes, I got lost. Three unexpected street closures had me completely turned around, and at the last wrong turn, my whole face was hot and I just let the tears fall. I called my husband in hysterics, and he talked me off the ledge, but by the time I pulled into the parking lot, I was just in pieces. I kept telling myself, “It may not work. Be okay with that. Just go in and take the test”.
Going in, one of my regular nurses sat me down for the blood draw, and told me that she was hoping for the best for us, and that she would call me after 1pm, as soon as she had results…unless of course it was bad news, because she hated making those calls. The entire process, minus my drive, was about 8 minutes. I was exhausted from crying, and from overthinking, and my hip was hurting from our nightly progesterone shots, and so I sat in my car afterward and just told myself, “Hey, you’ve done all you could do,and you have the battle wounds to prove it. Go to work.”
So I did.
This was one more instance that humbled and reminded me just how many times people come into work, with their whole worlds on their shoulders, and their coworkers are none the wiser. I sat at my desk, I planned some interesting activities for my library teens,and I ignored the clock. Until about 12:50, when I realized how close it was to 1pm. I ate a snack, and I went to the ladies room, and I checked on my book display, and I reread the same emails a few times.
1pm came and went. And with that, I decided it must be bad news. Because she did tell me that if it’s bad news, she isn’t going to call right away. So, I begin to prep myself. When she calls, I’ll probably need to excuse myself or take an early lunch. Should I leave for the day? Or will I just feel worse if I’m at home by myself? Maybe I’ll just clock out for a while and go to my car and get my feelings out before coming back in. This is my own fault for only transferring one embryo.
Toward the end of the hour, I’ve given myself all the preparation I can muster, and decided to just refocus on my work and await the call. This feels terrible, but if I just stay calm, I’ll get through it. It makes my head hot again.
When my phone rings, I’ve actually tuned out any possibility of positivity.
“How are you doing.” She says in a sad tone. Here it comes.
“I’m…okay.” I say. It’s a partial truth. I’m training myself to be okay with whatever.
“You doing okay?” She says. I can hear the pity. I wish she’d just spit it out.
“You okay” She says again. This is getting weird. And annoying. Maybe she could sense my sadness this morning and is checking on me before giving me bad news.
“Yeah, I’m okay.”
Now, at this point, allow me to explain that I share an office. I sit in rather close proximity to my manager, AND our office door is open at all times. So the rest of our department walks in and out, and in the afternoons, I have teens who walk right in and tell me all the details I never asked for about their days. So…my reactions to her words are relatively calm in relation to the YEARS I’ve waited for them.
“REALLY? That sounds awesome! Thanks SO much for letting me know!” Yes, very corporate response. I know. LOL I think she knew that was the situation, because she laughed, and then proceeded with the rest of the information.
“We were hoping for a beta over 50, but yours is 556.” Five hundred and fifty-six.
Every tear, every shot, every nerve-wrecked moment, was instantly worth it.
I excused myself from my desk to go up and call my husband. HE also works at a desk that is pretty out in the open, so as I told him this wonderful news, he too gave me the “Wow! Really, that sounds wonderful!” corporate response. And I understood it. LOL
So with that piece of humor, I want to say THANK YOU.
But before I thank you, I have to apologize. I have been uncharacteristically quiet for these past 21 weeks, for my own well-being. I have been fighting against the anxiety of possible loss, and the fear of letting people or myself down by getting too excited and then having to turn around and say, “False alarm guys. Things didn’t work out”. So for that, I apologize.
To my beloved Eggshells in the Shellshocked Support Group, I want to thank you for hearing me, and sharing your heart with me as I bared mine. Thank you for listening to me when I was hysterical and battling depression-induced anxiety. I had to withdraw from so much, to maintain my sanity, and I want to thank you for being my mainstay, even when it seemed I wasn’t around. I was there, watching, and praying, and I thank you for doing the same for me.
To my friends and family, for listening to me, and being patient with me when I consistently said I wasn’t announcing anything yet, even when you didn’t understand why. For the looks of understanding on your faces when I explained to you what this feels like after infertility, and how the happiness is accompanied by a fear that you hadn’t experienced before. I appreciate your empathy, and I am grateful for you.
To Dr. Anne Borkowski and the entire staff of North Shore Fertility in Skokie, Illinois. For giving us HOPE and LOVE, and SUPPORT, and finally, SUCCESS. To Terri Davidson, who answered my call for a suggestion on a doctor who could speak at my library and e-troduced me to Anne.
To ALL my friends in the infertility advocacy community. For being arms that have held each other up.
To each and every person who bought a t-shirt from our shop, or a ticket to one of our ‘fun’raisers, or prayed for us.
To the Tinina Q. Cade Foundation for naming us recipients of a 2015 Family Building Grant, and Dr. Camille Hammond, an amazing friend who encouraged me.
To every, single, reader of The BBE from its very inception: THANK YOU. For listening. I’m still talking, if you’re willing to stick around.
I had to take a few weeks to myself while nearing the end of our IVF journey because I was battling extreme anxiety and wanted to be as focused as possible. But have no fear! I have been documenting all the while, so that all my thoughts would be fresh and that I’ll be able to share with you what has been going on once I was a safe distance from it. The following are my actual thoughts while enduring everyone’s dreaded two week wait between transfer and beta testing.
The 2WW. I’ve heard tales of it, but honestly, each person’s experience with it is their own I’m learning. I have my moments of frustration and confusion, but overall I’m too busy to really focus on it much. I’m not quite ready to pull my hair out, or prepared to run through the pregnancy test aisles of my nearest convenience store.
To be honest, I’m hopeful, but also cognizant of the fact that this may not work. It’s a fact that we all have to acknowledge when embarking on fertility treatments of any kind. We have to be honest with ourselves and our partners.
I know his/her name.
I know who I believe they will be.
All I don’t know, is if my thoughts align with God’s will.
And in my moments of doubt, I start to feel very strongly that if this doesn’t work, I will want and need to apologize.
To my job,
Although I’ve tried so hard not to actually take any days off other than retrieval and transfer, I know that mentally, I just wasn’t there for the past couple of months. Working in a child-heavy environment, I have worked SO hard for soo long to keep my fertility issues out of sight, that even with a sore backside and absolutely no energy after driving 40 miles roundtrip for bloodwork, I’ve been still attempting to keep things quiet. I worry that when this is all over, if I have nothing to show for it, I’ll feel even worse to see that I’ve let my work fall to the wayside.
To my family,
For taking some of them on this fragmented roller coaster ride that I’ve ridden solo for years previous. I knew this ride was dangerous, so any stress they’ve taken on for me was clearly my fault. My mom worries, and I’d just be so sorry to have made her take on so much extra stress. Because, there isn’t much they can actually do. The shots, the meds, and everything else falls on me and my husband, so really all I’m doing is giving them (possibly) false hope, and I would hate to have done that.
For putting myself through shots everyday for the past 60 or so days, and sometimes twice a day. For irritating my skin with the adhesive backing of estrogen patches. For almost choking myself with these oddly circular estrogen pills that get stuck in my esophagus four times a day. I’ve given myself time to process every piece of this journey, by taking myself out of my normal social circles and isolating myself to the point where people have started messaging me and asking if I’m alive and well. I’ve had to close myself off so that I can focus on these things I’m doing that are so far outside of my comfort zone, (shots, anyone?), and it’s made me feel awkward and anxious. If this doesn’t work, I’ll worry that I’ll have to repair those connections, while privately licking my wounds, and I wonder how that will change me.
But, I’m sure this is all normal, right?
All these feelings of trying to protect myself from hoping too much, while trying to keep myself at optimum performance. Resisting the urge to POAS because I know that if it doesn’t say what I want it to say that I’ll lose the will to keep moving forward. All of this, from the highest peak to the lowest depth, are all normal feelings. And hopefully, at the end of this two weeks, they’ll be irrelevant.
The following is an anonymous submission for The Egg’s 2015 National Infertility Awareness Week Blog Project, #BehindClosedDoors. This brave and powerful entry is one that will resonate with many, and one that I had to share. THANK YOU to the Eggshell who sent it in, because she could be saving someone’s life with it.
If you are experiencing dark thoughts and need someone to talk to, please seek help. GoodTherapy.org offers a great search tool that will allow you to find help near you that specializes in the cares and concerns of those afflicted by infertility. Remember “You Are Not Alone”.
A month or so ago I actually tried to take my own life. I wasn’t strong enough to explain it here or anywhere else. I did write it out though, and I’m posting it now. My journey will never give anyone hope because…well I’m not pregnant and I never will be. But maybe my journey will save someone else from letting themselves lapse into a despair that seems insurmountable. Anyway, I don’t remember the exact date or time, but below is what I wrote about it.
I called a counseling center this week.
As many times as I’ve told myself to call, or to look into it, or to move forward with it, this time I wouldn’t let myself back out. I need someone to talk to. Someone who isn’t my friend, or my mom, or my spouse. They’ve heard all my gripes before, and they can apply a temporary salve, but they can’t help me “do my work”, as Iyanla would say. They can’t help me unfold and unwrap all the things I’ve bound inside of myself.
The last time I got the courage up to call a therapist, was about a year ago. I had browsed and studied GoodTherapy.org for about a month before finally deciding on someone with a pleasant enough face, and a close enough location. When I finally got her on the phone, she said that she’d recently moved to Atlanta, and that she had a therapist she trusted back here, who I could call.
I decided that was a sign that I didn’t need a therapist. I mean obviously, if I’d done all that research, and the lady wasn’t even here anymore…
So I went back to business as usual.
And just what is business as usual for me?
Well, I work a lot.
I don’t think you understand.
From the minute I open my eyes in the morning, I immediately find a project to complete. I start in on whatever I can get done before leaving for work, and then once I’m there, I boot up whatever I was working on the day before, plus a few extra things I’ve just thought up, and then I’m mentally booked until around 3pm, when we start getting kids in the library, and wouldn’t you know it, that’s when it’s time for programs and meetings.
By the time I make it home, I try to continue whatever items I didn’t finish at work. If there’s nothing left to really do, I throw myself into a video game, Netflix binge, or Pinterest session(yes, session. My pinning is the stuff of legend. LOL).
I usually do these things until I’m too tired to stay awake. Most nights, I get about four hours of actual sleep because I have a hard time closing my eyes and shutting my brain off at the end of the day. After practically wringing it out like a rag all day, my mind rattles with everything from world peace, to job and sorority tasks, to what kind of schools I want my future children to attend.
And it does not stop or pause.
And when I wake up from that four hours, I start it all over again.
Because if I stop, for one second, I will completely fall apart.
The million tasks I do every day, are my coping mechanism. They distract me from the things that frighten me, and frustrate me, and utterly devastate me. I use them to invent things for myself to hope for, because I’ve lost all ability to do so without them. If I don’t have an event planned for next Saturday at 2pm, I’m not confident that there will be a Saturday.
Half of my day, every day, is looking at other people and wondering how they are so calm. I wonder how they are able to get up and go to work, or meetings, and smile, and have ideas, and just not seem to worry as much as I know that I do. My fears and anxiety levels get so high, that I can barely complete simple tasks.
February of 2013 was hard for me. I was severely depressed. Frustrated with not only my body, but this world in general. Then there was a short glimmer of hope as we planned to adopt, but then that went very sour, very quickly. And while having that little girl in my home for the following six months was special, and healing in many ways, it was also a horribly devastating experience. One that I suppressed into myself.
I am a person who suppresses my own grief. This is a symptom of depression.
I did not allow myself to grieve. I did not have time or interest in it. I just went back to work. With all my disappointment, and all my fear, and a double portion of my anxieties tucked into my tote bag.
I was, and still am, disappointed that for all my positive thinking, things still failed. I am constantly fearful that things may never work. I worry that I’ll continue to plan and hope and have the door closed on me year after year. I am always anxious that I will run out of time.
A year later, February is grueling in my heart. I’m uncomfortable, and sad, and just all around off of my game right now. Most days, I’m literally petrified. I’m tired of it. And more importantly, I’m tired of living in the dark about it.
Infertility is a quiet force within the African American community, and so is depression and mental wellness. Culturally, we are conditioned to internalize, suppress, and work through our feelings on our own. We are taught to keep “inside business, inside”, and to never let others know what we’re going through. Those things we know require outside help, are usually directed to our spiritual leaders, and not to medical healers.
I had a hard time writing this post.
Because I hate to be soooo depressing. Ugh. I HATE IT.
I really don’t like talking about the sadness, and the fear, and the emotional voids that have come into my life. I especially hate that I feel as though I’ve allowed them to. I am angry at myself for not being strong enough to not feel this way, and that too, is something those of us who suppress, do.
Instead of reaching out for help, I tell myself:
“You should pray more.”
“You’re being weak.”
“You just need to write it out or talk it out.”
“If you have time to sit here and mope, you aren’t working enough.”
And once I’ve done such a great job of thinking myself out of moving forward,…the feelings pass for a short while. Then, like I know they will, they always come right back.
Infertility, is bigger than babies. I tell people this all the time, and I doubt they really hear me. It is SO much bigger than bellies and bumps.
Infertility is trauma. Every part of this journey has its own scars and sounds, and memories that for many of us will never ever go away. They haunt us, and hurt us, and cause us to drastically change from whoever we were or at the very least thought we were.
Infertility hurts so far beyond the baby. It’s about my marriage, my friendships and my ability to picture a future. It’s about my body, and whether everything I’ve been told about personal power is true. Source
Because we want to be parents, and because we want to be the type of parents we always dreamed we’d be, we suppress the parts of us that are sad, or angry, or frightened. We wrap those feelings up, and we pack them away, so that we can plant a smile on our faces and keep going. But you cannot build a strong new house on a bad foundation.
I’m trying to walk into 2014 with more hope and faith than I had last year. I want nothing in my way. So I am going to do my best to rebuild my foundation.
Are you suffering from depression? Are you suppressing the emotional toll that infertility has taken on your life? You do not have to fight alone. You do not have to be alone. Here are a few resources that will help make sure you aren’t.
Coping With Infertility and Depression
GoodTherapy.Org Fertility Resource List
Resolve: Mental Health Resources
Infertility and Depression 101
#DayOfLight Info and Resources
- The #DayOfLight Campaign is the brainchild of blogger Brandi of MamaKnowsItAll
- Visit my good friend Natasha’s blog for the post that inspired me to participate here.
Would you like to participate?
- If you are a blogger, write a blog post sharing your personal experience of depression and/or share resources to help others. Add the #DayOfLight hashtag in your post title. (If you don’t have a blog, but want to speak about infertility and depression, please send your thoughts to The Egg and I will post them anonymously for you.)
- Watch the #DayOfLight Google Hangout on Wednesday, February 5th at 11 AM EST. Tweet and ask questions. (http://bit.ly/1ilifbP)
- Participate in the #DayOfLight twitter chat on Wednesday, February 5th at 9 PM EST (follow@PushingLovely, @NotoriousSpinks, and @BrandiJeter for more information)
- Turn your social media avatars black and white on Wednesday, February 5th so we can visually represent all of those affected by depression.
- Share inspiring tweets, posts, and photos on social media to encourage those who are suffering with depression to let them know that they are not alone. Use the hashtag #DayOfLight.