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Where To Begin…At the Beginning!

Are you an Eggshell living in the Chicago or Western suburban Chicago area?  I’ve got great news this National Infertility Awareness Week!  I am extremely proud to announce that there’s a special event just for you.  On Saturday April 26th, join myself and an amazing panel of experts for my first information session!

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Start Here: Destination Family is an hour-long jam-packed experience where you will get to ask questions and get face-to-face answers from experts in the infertility world on almost every front: Adoption & Adoption Law, Foster Care, Medical Assistance, and Support Groups!

Meet myself, Dr. Anne Borkowski of North Shore Fertility, Nijole Yutokowitz – Director of Resource and Community Development at The Cradle, Dr. Stacye Edwards-Dunne of Fertility for Colored Girls, and Michelle M. Hughes – Adoption Advocate and Attorney!

Come out.  Learn.  Get active!!

Registration is FREE, do so here: http://tinyurl.com/StartHereNIAW

 

 

It’s So Loud Inside My Head

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So, we’re stiiiiiiill waiting.

Since learning about our male factor issues, we’ve kind of been on hold.  The preliminary moves in the urology department have basically just included a repeat of all the tests that were required from the original visits to the fertility center.  The fertility center can’t move forward until we have clear answers from urology on the issues they determine, and the urologist can’t move forward until our insurance approves everything.  There is a lot of back and forth, (and copays), between primary care doctors, specialists, and test centers.

And I’m annoyed.  For a few reasons.

An Ass Out of U & ME

I’m irked that we fell for the okey doke and relied soo heavily on the issues we knew I had, rather than looking into the male factor issues sooner.  The sheer intensity of my PCOS and thyroid complications led us all, (doctors included), to assume that it just had to be only me at the root of this crap.  I’m annoyed at myself for not “going wit my first mind”, and being thorough.

My Timeline is Askew

I’m irritated that there really is nothing I can do right now but wait.  Again.  I’m non-essential personnel at the urologist.  If I want to know what step we’re on, I have to pry the information out of the spouse’s one-word answers.  LOL  Not that he’s being a jerk about anything, but I’ve been the captain of this ship for oh, about six, seven years now…so to not know our itinerary, is eating me alive.  Like for real, can I at LEAST be in charge of the drinks on the lido deck or something?

No, Really. My Timeline is Jacked Up.

It’s March, people.  MARCH.  aka Third month of the year.  aka, even if I do get pregnant this year, I still might don’t have a kid until 2015.  So in my mind, it’s March, and I’ve lost yet another year.  Go me.  Cue the band.

It’s Exhausting.

It is extremely tiring to go to work every day, or do assignments, or just “be”, when you really want to wrap yourself up in a warm blanket, grab a trashy novel and a glass of wine, and just stop being an adult for like 45 minutes.  I’m kind of over adulthood lately.  It is NOT keeping up its end of the bargain.  Or at least not from what I saw when I was watching television and reading books as a young girl.  I mean, we should be living in a hip urban brownstone, working freelance jobs at swanky companies, hosting dinner parties, and on our second “accidental” pregnancy right now, right?  I mean, at least that’s what Thursday night lineups of years gone by said.  It’s literally exhausting trying to keep the thoughts of your real mind, from seeping out.  I don’t want people to know how much of my day is in this mental place, but should the opportunity to speak my truth come about in everyday conversation, I can’t really lie and say I’d know how to stop myself.

So as usual, I’ve just decided to stay busy, busy, busy. All this noise and thought running rampant in my head, has to come out sometime, and hopefully it may benefit you. Stay tuned for more info, including some very special events/blog posts for National Infertility Awareness Week 2014!

In the meantime, check out this month’s Sister2Sister Magazine for an article on Egg Freezing, The Egg has a brief mention.  Thank you Shahida Muhammad for thinking of me!

March 2014 Sister 2 Sister

 

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The Lovers The Dreamers And Me

The past couple weeks have been interesting to say the least.
Since learning of my blocked and useless fallopian tubes, I went on to have the period from hell…Again. This time, our new record is off and on for upwards of 37 days.

After a pretty aggressive medication regimen, my doctor and I finally decided to pull out the heavy artillery and press the reset button by scheduling a D&C and hysteroscopy.
Cue “Dun, Dun, Duuuuuuun” sound effects.

Now, leading up to this surgery, I was in quite the peculiar and bitchtastic mood, let me tell you. Hopped up on hormone pills and whatnot is not the way to keep a mellow attitude. I fell into a deep dark hole called, “I’m sick of this shit.” You ever been there?  I vacation there often, lately.

I didn’t want to post here.
I didn’t want to dream.
I didn’t want to write.
I didn’t want to do anything but go to work and come home…and they could spare me the work.
And that was hard for me because I’m a tenacious type of person. I don’t like being or feeling defeated. I don’t like feeling hopeless. But I certainly was.

So I spent a lot of evenings in my bedroom.
Laying against my pillow, cruising social media.
Thinking angry thoughts.

In the middle of my angst, however, I did spend a lot of time with one of my favorite social media addictions these days, the virtual pinboard, Pinterest.

Pinterest has a lot of uses.  It can be a way to visually collect bookmarks.  It can be a way for people to market their merchandise by baiting people to repin photos of it. It can be a lot of things, but what it has the greatest quality in, is creating vision boards.

It’s easy to get lost there for hours and see how other people have curated their dreams into these sprawling boards of hope and planning.  People pin quotes, photos, plans, etc.  I use my boards as something to look at, work on, believe in.
It was here that I regained my footing.
It is here that I want you to gain some of yours as well.

I want you to take a little time and come out of your shell. Take the opportunity to dream out loud, boldly and in full color. Let’s get creative.

What I’m proposing is that you use Pinterest to visually take a step out into the advocacy arena. Either for the infertility community as a whole, or just for yourself. From now until September 24th, I am asking all my Eggshells to join me in celebrating possibility.

Using Pinterest, I want you to create a one of two or both kinds of the following boards:
Advocacy Board: create a board that deals with Infertility Awareness, PCOS Awareness, or Adoption Awareness, etc. Pin articles, photos, or procedures that give the world a better view of what it is like to live this infertility life and of the conditions which have led you down this path.

Here’s Mine: “The Great IF: What It Looks, Feels, and Sounds like

One Day Mom Board: Create a board for your future. Pin articles, photos, or ideas that you will use when you become a mom. Adoption maternity photo shoot ideas, Birth Announcements, Homemade Baby Food How-To’s. Whatever it is that you want to be or do as a mom, pin it.

Here’s Mine: “YeYo

For an added plus, you can use the hashtag #BBEShellShocked on any pins that you want to be located through The Broken Brown Egg. I will have a link here on the site for people to catch up on our boards and any pins with that tag will pop up.  Tell others, invite family and friends to view your board.  Use it to come out of the infertility closet.

When I was at my lowest, I found it very hard to dream. Hope was at a small, small level in my heart. Dreaming, however, put me back on track to move forward. I want the same for you. And if we can enlighten the world to what WE go through at the same time, then all the better.

Thank You in Advance

The very first day that I mentioned hosting a fundraiser for Infertility Awareness on this blog, was about a year ago.  From that time, I’ve received support and collaboration from the most unexpected places.  There have been some very high moments, and some low points.  In my personal life, things have taken more dips and turns than a trip to Six Flags.  Yet, the importance of this mission…for someone out there who needs it more than anything, has kept me moving.

Tomorrow night, at our first annual gala, the following video will be played as a slideshow tribute.  I am debuting it today, because I felt an enormous sense of gratitude for each and every person who visits this blog, interacts with us on Facebook, or just supports the mission of The Egg.  I could NOT have gotten this far, without you.  There were so many great statements collected via our Facebook page, so many in fact that there was just no more room.  I THANK everyone who participated, and will be finding a way to highlight those messages as well.

Anyway, I haven’t slept yet…and I’m rambling. LOL  So without further stall…

THANK YOU.  From The Egg and I.

Create your own video slideshow at animoto.com.

Ask and it shall be given…

We are TEN days away from our first annual A.H.A. Moment.
TEN days away from my first venture into entertaining and education.
TEN days away from great food, Wonderful guests, and a dance your socks off experience.
And I have to admit…I don’t want anyone to miss out.

So when a concerned guest from out of town realized that she and her husband wouldn’t be able to make it, she was VERY interested in allowing someone else to come in her place. Two tickets were donated in her honor. I was speechless as I thought about the fact that someone could get the chance to participate with us who perhaps couldn’t have done so before.
I wanted to do more but feasibly couldn’t see how.   So we hosted a contest last week to ensure that someone who wanted to come to the party, would definitely be able to. Congratulations are in order for Nichelle!!

She won two tickets and a special prize yesterday when the random generator drew her name.

Then just as I was about to go into a money-crunching frenzy to figure out a way to help more people attend, two more of my very special sisters donated more ticket costs!
SO, to the other three ladies who entered the drawing…I hope you have a pretty dress in your closet!!! You win tickets as well! So, Selina, and Mary, I’ll see you next Friday!! And Brandi, I hope your hubby has a suit, because you just won his ticket!!

I’m so excited. Are you?
If you can’t make it to our event, but would like to support, please visit http://thebrokenbrownegg.eventbrite.com and consider making an Epiphany donation. There is no minimum amount and every little bit helps.
If you WOULD like to attend, or know of someone who really does, send me an email, you never know where a blessing is going to come from. I didn’t, and neither did the four special people just blessed.

Can’t Hold It In: A Sneak Peak at the Auction!

Really quickly, because I’m giddy, I wanted to share with our readers who may not visit us on Facebook, a quick peek at one of our auction items. This gift set comes courtesy of

an AMAZING adoption resource licensed in Pennsylvania, New Jersey, New York, Delaware, Virginia and Connecticut.

Included in the set is:

Two Picture Books:
Tyler, Michael. The Skin You’re In
Monk, Isabel. Hope

Three Adult Titles:
Caughman, Susan and Motley, Isolde. You Can Adopt
Ehrensaft, Diane. Mommies, Daddies, Donors, Surrogates: Answering Tough Questions and Building Strong Families
Wolff, Jana. Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother

Also Included:
Adoptions from the Heart Beach Towel which reads: “Love Builds Families
Adoptions from the Heart hand sanitizer packs
Adoptions from the Heart mouse pad
As well as a few more choice goodies.

BUT, the KING of the entire package is a gift certificate which waives the application fee!! This certificate alone is worth $500!!
I am in absolute awe of this beautiful package and I’m sure you will be too.
So, if you haven’t already, enter the contest for your free tickets to the gala, or purchase them pronto!
Also, take a few minutes and check out http://adoptionsfromtheheart.org as well as their outstanding blog.
This resource is outstanding and I can’t wait to see who wins this great gift!

Sidenote: As a Librarian and advocate for knowledge and research I was ELATED to see so many BOOKS in this gift.  I’m just…14 days yall.

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