Dear Younger Me
Infertility is like an advanced placement life-lessons course. A training ground where many of us build up strengths and skills we never knew we had. We learn how to put ourselves on a schedule that’s as detailed as a kindergarten teacher’s. We figure out how to measure medications in syringes much smaller than the beakers we had in biology class. We learn how to be kick-ass, proactive, and strong.
But boy wouldn’t it have been nice to learn some of those things a little earlier.
Dear Younger Self,
- Congratulations on the new job! I know you don’t know this yet, but that health insurance package is top notch. Take advantage of it by going right now and scheduling yourself a complete workup.
- I know, I know. You don’t really want to think about this just yet, because the “timing” isn’t right, but I think you should really ask that doctor to do some more tests. If your period is this much of a hassle, maybe it’s more than just your thyroid. You don’t want to have to take birth control pills forever, do you?
- You can ask questions, you know? If this doctor isn’t going to listen to your thoughts about the Clomid not working, you can ask her to discuss a plan with you, or you can find a new doctor.
- Take your medicine properly! Why are you wasting prescription bills?
- You can be honest about wanting kids.
- Ask for an HSG test! Ask for an HSG test! Ask for an HSG test!!
- Crying about this doesn’t make you weak.
- Write EVERYTHING down. No matter how insignificant you think it is.
- Be honest. With yourself, with your spouse, with your family, with your doctors.
- Don’t forget to enjoy your life. You are bigger than your fertility.
If you could tell your younger self something, knowing what you know now about the journey, what would it be?
Regina Townsend is the primary author and founder of TheBrokenBrownEgg. A librarian and writer, Regina’s mission is to make people aware and active about the unique concerns of reproductive health in the minority community.